What Your High School Student Can’t Wait To Do

If you could help your high school student achieve the following would you?

  • Higher academic achievement with greater focus and attention.
  • Collaborative relationships with parents, siblings, teachers, and friends.
  • Less stress and the ability to manage daily life challenges.
  • Better decisions, less engagement in risky behavior, and a willingness to not give in to peer pressure.
  • Greater empathy and compassion towards others, and the desire to make a difference.

With the backing of 20 plus years of research, emotional intelligence (EI) has proven to be the missing link to helping students achieve all of these things, and more.

And, not only will greater EI help your children today, it will also help them later in life. A more recent study followed-up with adults who went through rigorous EI training as children. This study found that the highly emotional intelligent adults are doing better financially and have better health than those who tested below average in EI as children.

High emotional intelligence in a child proves to be a a remarkable predictor to success in life as an adult.

Over the last several months, I’ve shared this information with other parents. Consistently, each person thought of EI as something only business leaders needed.  The truth is, EI is for business leaders AND parents, spouses, children, families, students, teachers, neighbors, and any other title you can give to the human race. Emotional intelligence is for everyone!

And, these same parents thought that their children would receive EI training when they landed their first job.

Your child can’t afford to wait until then.

In a season where our children struggle with pressure to perform, to fit in with peers, and to prepare for the transition from high school to college, it is becoming more and more clear that EI is something that will:

  • Help your child manage the complexities of life.
  • Help your child stand out compared to their peers.
  • Contribute to their overall success.

For more about the origin of EI, click here.

If you are interested in learning more about how coaching can help your high school student gain greater emotional intelligence, please contact me.

Kelli
Leadership and Life Coach
CrossRoad Coaching

Kelli 011r

I am a Leadership and Life Coach, noted for helping people who are stuck in a crossroad wanting more out of life. As a coach, I will help you gain fresh perspectives on personal challenges, enhance your decision-making skills, improve your overall interpersonal effectiveness, and increase your confidence as you navigate towards greater overall fulfillment.

Contact me at CrossRoad Coaching today for a FREE, one-hour, initial inquiry meeting (either in person or over the phone) to see how coaching can help you navigate a way towards greater fulfillment in your career, relationships, and life.

 

 

 

 

Emotional Intelligence…It’s Not Just for Corporate Leaders

Have you ever had something stuck in your head and you just can’t seem to let it go? Well for some reason, I have a Daniel Goleman quote from 1998 running like a loop recording in my mind.

“Emotional intelligence is the sine qua non of leadership.”
Daniel Goleman, What Makes a Leader?, Harvard Business Review, 1998

I recently came across the source of this quote, What Makes A Leader?, and for some reason I can’t stop thinking about it. Leaders know if they want to be effective and have meaningful connections with others, and if they want to stand out among the best, they need to focus on developing their emotional intelligence. They go to training sessions to learn about it, they hire Coaches to get better, they practice, and get more feedback.

And guess what? It works! Leaders become better leaders and have greater job satisfaction.

So it has me thinking.

If EI is the sine qua non of leadership, then shouldn’t it be the sine qua non of any position…mother, father, wife, husband, son, daughter, friend, student, neighbor, etc.?

Shouldn’t we all try to get better at EI so we can have successful relationships with each other?

Over the next several weeks, I hope to prove why being intentional about increasing  EI should be an absolutely necessary part of  life for everyone, not just leaders. But for now, let’s take a quick look at what emotional intelligence is.

6 Seconds, a global network supporting people to create positive change, everywhere, all the time, has a lot to say about EI. They make the point that:

Emotions are valuable signals that help us survive and thrive.  When we learn how to use them, emotions help us make more effective decisions, connect with others, find and follow purpose and lead a more whole-hearted life.”

So let’s look at a simple visual that summarizes EI using Goleman’s four main categories.

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SOMETHING TO THINK ABOUT:
As you look at this grid, ask yourself these questions:
• Am I aware of my emotions and their impact on others?
• Do I express emotions in healthy and productive ways?
• Do I genuinely care about how others feel and their well being?
• Do I have meaningful connections with others?

SOMETHING TO TRY:
• Pay attention to your emotions this week. What patterns do you notice? Share your findings with someone who knows you well.

Check back next week to discover why you want to increase your EI! Have a great week!

Kelli
Leadership and Life Coach
CrossRoad Coaching

Kelli 011r

I am a Leadership and Life Coach, noted for helping people who are stuck in a crossroad wanting more out of their career, relationships, and life. As a coach, I will help you gain fresh perspectives on personal challenges, enhance your decision-making skills, improve your overall interpersonal effectiveness, and increase your confidence as you navigate towards greater overall fulfillment.

Contact me at CrossRoad Coaching today for a FREE, one-hour, initial inquiry meeting (either in person or over the phone) to see how coaching can help you navigate a way towards greater fulfillment in your career, relationships, and life.

Day 40: Celebrate

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Day 40: CELEBRATE

It’s been a blast moving through the crossroad with you! You should know me by now to expect that this final day is going to be all about the celebration!

If you have been tracking along with me since Day 1, wow we covered a lot of ground!

I really do hope you find time to celebrate this week, and remember to celebrate often. It’s so easy to get caught up in what’s next, and the busyness of life. Build it into your schedule to take time to celebrate and reflect on where you are in the process of achieving your long-term vision.

• What will you do to celebrate working 40 days through the crossroad?

CHALLENGE: I would love to hear from you. If you worked through this process, or are currently working through it, please let me know! You can visit me on my Facebook page, my website, or email me to let me know how it is going!

Watch for regular weekly postings from me starting next week (I need to take a few days to celebrate completing the 40 day blogging!) I look forward to hearing from you!

Kelli
Leadership and Life Coach
CrossRoad Coaching

Kelli 011r

I am a Leadership and Life Coach, noted for helping people who are stuck in a crossroad wanting more out of their career, relationships, and life. As a coach, I will help you gain fresh perspectives on personal challenges, enhance your decision-making skills, improve your overall interpersonal effectiveness, and increase your confidence as you navigate towards greater overall fulfillment.

Contact me at CrossRoad Coaching today for a FREE, one-hour, initial inquiry meeting (either in person or over the phone) to see how coaching can help you navigate a way towards greater fulfillment in your career, relationships, and life.

 

Day 39: Accountability

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Day 39: ACCOUNTABILITY

Building an accountability system is often the difference between moving forward and standing still.

• How will you hold yourself accountable in the days to come?

• What systems do you need to put into place?

• When will you plan for little celebrations along the way?

CHALLENGE: Really challenge yourself to commit to some sort of accountability system that will work for you. Share your thoughts with a friend.

Kelli
Leadership and Life Coach
CrossRoad Coaching

Kelli 011r

I am a Leadership and Life Coach, noted for helping people who are stuck in a crossroad wanting more out of their career, relationships, and life. As a coach, I will help you gain fresh perspectives on personal challenges, enhance your decision-making skills, improve your overall interpersonal effectiveness, and increase your confidence as you navigate towards greater overall fulfillment.

Contact me at CrossRoad Coaching today for a FREE, one-hour, initial inquiry meeting (either in person or over the phone) to see how coaching can help you navigate a way towards greater fulfillment in your career, relationships, and life.

 

Day 38: Reflection

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Day 38: REFLECTION

We are just two days away from day 40 and have covered A LOT of ground!

If you have been keeping a journal, flip back through the pages from the beginning. If not, think back to the very beginning.

Days 1-10: You looked at where you are in terms of your strengths, values, passions, personality, etc.

Days 11-20: You did a lot of self-discovery and defined what it means to live life to the full. You looked out and thought about how you would want others to describe you, you wrote your perfect job description, and you looked at your life to determine what you need to “love” and what you need to “list.”

Days 21-30: You looked at obstacles that were going to stall you in achieving the vision you want for your life. You looked at baggage you need to leave behind, your self-talk, fears, your perspective and other pot holes you might fall into as you set out on your journey.

Days 31-today. This last leg of the journey is all about taking a step forward. You set goals, identified the relationships, environment, skills and knowledge, and attitude you need to move forward with confidence.

• As you reflect back, what are your top three takeaways from this process?

CHALLENGE: Record your three takeaways so that you can review them going forward. Share your takeaways with someone.

Kelli
Leadership and Life Coach
CrossRoad Coaching

Kelli 011r

I am a Leadership and Life Coach, noted for helping people who are stuck in a crossroad wanting more out of their career, relationships, and life. As a coach, I will help you gain fresh perspectives on personal challenges, enhance your decision-making skills, improve your overall interpersonal effectiveness, and increase your confidence as you navigate towards greater overall fulfillment.

Contact me at CrossRoad Coaching today for a FREE, one-hour, initial inquiry meeting (either in person or over the phone) to see how coaching can help you navigate a way towards greater fulfillment in your career, relationships, and life.

 

Day 37: What Matters Most

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Day 37: DO WHAT MATTERS MOST

I think Nike had it right when they chose three simple words for their 1988 marketing campaign.

Just do it.

Yesterday you created six goals you want to work on over the next eight weeks.

What steps do you need to take today to move forward?

Make room in your calendar to work on these goals and don’t let things that won’t matter in the end get in the way.

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• What will you do today to move closer to the vision you created?

• What do you need to do to make the time to JUST DO IT?

• How will it feel at the end of the day knowing your are on a path moving forward?

CHALLENGE: Make a commitment to yourself to do at least ONE thing to work towards your goals. At the end of the day share your progress with someone close to you.

Kelli
Leadership and Life Coach
CrossRoad Coaching

Kelli 011r

I am a Leadership and Life Coach, noted for helping people who are stuck in a crossroad wanting more out of their career, relationships, and life. As a coach, I will help you gain fresh perspectives on personal challenges, enhance your decision-making skills, improve your overall interpersonal effectiveness, and increase your confidence as you navigate towards greater overall fulfillment.

Contact me at CrossRoad Coaching today for a FREE, one-hour, initial inquiry meeting (either in person or over the phone) to see how coaching can help you navigate a way towards greater fulfillment in your career, relationships, and life.

 

Day 36: What Really Matters?

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Day 36: WHAT REALLY MATTERS?

A year ago today, I made the decision that I wanted to live a different life. I had a very specific vision that included making some changes to my career, my relationships and my life overall.

Looking back to where I started, I can tell you that I’m pretty darn close to the vision I created a year ago.

To get here, I used a process of setting six goals over a two-month period. This helped me to stay focus on what was important.

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• Refer back to your long term vision.

• What goals do you need to set over the next two months that will help you move towards this long term vision?

Keep your goals in a place where you will see them every day. You might even want to write the words, “A year from now, what is going to matter?” on the top of the chart.

At the end of every two-month period, go back and make note of what you accomplished so you can celebrate your progress!

CHALLENGE: Share your first goal chart with someone who will encourage you and cheer you on as you move closer to attaining your goals.

Kelli
Leadership and Life Coach
CrossRoad Coaching

Kelli 011r

I am a Leadership and Life Coach, noted for helping people who are stuck in a crossroad wanting more out of their career, relationships, and life. As a coach, I will help you gain fresh perspectives on personal challenges, enhance your decision-making skills, improve your overall interpersonal effectiveness, and increase your confidence as you navigate towards greater overall fulfillment.

Contact me at CrossRoad Coaching today for a FREE, one-hour, initial inquiry meeting (either in person or over the phone) to see how coaching can help you navigate a way towards greater fulfillment in your career, relationships, and life.

 

Day 35: Make It or Break It

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Day 35: MAKE IT OR BREAK IT

Over the last several days you looked at the relationships, environment, and the skills and knowledge needed to take a step towards achieving your new vision. This last category is a make it or break it category.

As you move towards your vision, you may not have immediate success. This part of the journey is going to have some ups and downs, twists and turns, and pot holes that could possibly stall you out.

Your attitude is going to play a big part in your ability to continue to move forward.

• What feelings are being stirred up as you set out to take your first step?

• What positive self-talk will help you when you find yourself struggling in the process of moving forward?

• What is one thing you can do to help keep your attitude and self-talk in check?

CHALLENGE: Make plans now for your first set back. What are you going to do when you recognize that you are experiencing a set back in achieving your vision?

Kelli
Leadership and Life Coach
CrossRoad Coaching

Kelli 011r

I am a Leadership and Life Coach, noted for helping people who are stuck in a crossroad wanting more out of their career, relationships, and life. As a coach, I will help you gain fresh perspectives on personal challenges, enhance your decision-making skills, improve your overall interpersonal effectiveness, and increase your confidence as you navigate towards greater overall fulfillment.

Contact me at CrossRoad Coaching today for a FREE, one-hour, initial inquiry meeting (either in person or over the phone) to see how coaching can help you navigate a way towards greater fulfillment in your career, relationships, and life.

 

Day 34: Do and Know

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Day 34: DO AND KNOW

I was working with a client who had been standing in the crossroad for some time. She knew exactly what changes she wanted for her life, but was stuck because she needed to master some specific skills and obtain some new knowledge. Rather than letting that hold her back, she set up a plan that allows her to get what she needs in order make a pretty significant career shift.

Depending on the changes you are looking to achieve in your new vision, you may need to gain some new skills and/or knowledge.

• What new skills and knowledge do you need to achieve your vision?

• What resources are available for you to gain these new skills and knowledge (think friendships, information interviews, shadowing, books, online resources, etc)?

• Where can you practice these skills?

• How will it feel to gain these new skills and knowledge?

• What steps can you take to begin to gain the new skills and knowledge you identified?

CHALLENGE: Share your ideas with a friend. Ask for help in identifying additional resources to help you move forward.

Kelli
Leadership and Life Coach
CrossRoad Coaching

Kelli 011r

I am a Leadership and Life Coach, noted for helping people who are stuck in a crossroad wanting more out of their career, relationships, and life. As a coach, I will help you gain fresh perspectives on personal challenges, enhance your decision-making skills, improve your overall interpersonal effectiveness, and increase your confidence as you navigate towards greater overall fulfillment.

Contact me at CrossRoad Coaching today for a FREE, one-hour, initial inquiry meeting (either in person or over the phone) to see how coaching can help you navigate a way towards greater fulfillment in your career, relationships, and life.

 

Day 33: Look Around

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Day 33:  LOOK AROUND

Your environment actually has a bigger contribution to your ability to achieve your goals than probably most people realize.

If I’m sitting in a sterile room with no windows, I feel claustrophobic. It’s hard for me to be creative, and it certainly does not energize me. Whereas if I am sitting in a coffee house that is lively with people coming and going, I feel energized (and possibly a bit distracted) but definitely more comfortable.

If I want to connect with someone, I would much prefer to be face to face than over the phone.

If I want to relax and do nothing, I’d prefer being outdoors than indoors.

Take some time today to notice your surroundings and how it supports or becomes an obstacle in your ability to achieve your vision.

• What about your environment needs to stay the same to help you to achieve your vision?

• What type of environment energizes you? What environments drain you?

• What about your current environment needs to change in order for you to achieve your vision?

• What steps can you take to begin making these changes?

CHALLENGE: Commit to making one change to your surroundings to help you to feel more energized.

Kelli
Leadership and Life Coach
CrossRoad Coaching

Kelli 011r

I am a Leadership and Life Coach, noted for helping people who are stuck in a crossroad wanting more out of their career, relationships, and life. As a coach, I will help you gain fresh perspectives on personal challenges, enhance your decision-making skills, improve your overall interpersonal effectiveness, and increase your confidence as you navigate towards greater overall fulfillment.

Contact me at CrossRoad Coaching today for a FREE, one-hour, initial inquiry meeting (either in person or over the phone) to see how coaching can help you navigate a way towards greater fulfillment in your career, relationships, and life.

 

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